Sober Grocery Shopping (Without the Anxiety)
Sober Grocery Shopping – imagine thisโฆ You have been having a great day. You didnโt hit traffic that made you want to roll down the windows and scream. Your boss was pleasant this morning. You even planned a special meal the kids can eat for dinner โ Zucchini Raviolis. (Yes, sometimes they can be tricked into eating vegetables.) Youโre halfway home and a thought hits you โ your spouse ate the last egg for breakfast. You make a hasty right and head toward the grocery store. But, the truth is you’re afraid. Very afraid.
Sober Grocery Shopping (at Sanford and beyond)
A trip to the grocery store shouldnโt seem like a scary experience โ but it can be for someone recovering from a substance use disorder (SUD). As human beings, we HAVE to eat. So this means we must go places where they sell food. Taking a different route home to avoid the liquor store on the corner is manageable, but walking past the liquor aisle at the local grocery is often unavoidable.
Luckily, there are some tried-and-true guidelines those in recovery can follow. Facing the weekly shopping trip or making that last minute pit stop to the grocery store can be manageable. Just follow my Sanford Sober Grocery Shopping Advice and relax.
Sanford House Chef Mackenzie practicing what she preaches…
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Use the sober shopping buddy system
Take someone else shopping with you if possible. Ask a friend or family member who has been helpful throughout your recovery. No โ you donโt need a babysitter โ just support. Those who have not experienced addiction canโt understand how much those who are struggling are affected by their drink or drug of choice. A client once explained this feeling to me as an โout of bodyโ experience. Logically, she knew that drinking would have negative consequences, but seeing alcohol at the store still drew her in. Thatโs why she talked to her sister and they began doing their shopping together. This was the grounding and support she needed to stay sober. Having someone there to keep you “in your body” is both normal and necessary for some people in recovery.ย
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Indulge in an alternativeย ย
Itโs okay to treat yourself, in moderation. Speaking of Oreo cookies, I am a nutritional specialist at Sanford, but I do indulge in a serving (or 4) every now and then.ย We all deserve to gift ourselves with a treat occasionally โ especially if itโs a choice between a treat and being tempted to use.ย
It is helpful to change your thought process here. Tell yourself that instead of using as you did in the past, your special treat is going to be a little bag of your favorite candy (or maybe something healthier, like your favorite berries that are on sale this week). Sometimes, making it through the grocery store while fighting cravings and triggers feels like winning a marathon! And like winning a marathon โ it is a huge accomplishment. So go ahead โ treat yourself!ย
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Put money on your mind
When youโre at the grocery store, thinking through the reasons you shouldnโt use addictive substances again โ be sure to put cost on the list. Alcohol is expensive! No matter where a person is financially, one thing I believe we all have in common is that we donโt like to waste money. Thatโs why it can be helpful to reflect on how much money you are saving by not buying alcohol at the store anymore. When you find yourself being tempted toward that aisle, remember you can put extra cash toward a weekend away with your friends or that massage youโve needed for months.ย
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Push play while sober grocery shopping …
Play the tape. Those who are recovering from a SUD are often told to โplay the tapeโ when they are thinking about drinking or using. This means to think things through to their inevitable end before taking action. A past Sanford client once told me, โI know that if I drink I will spin out of control. I will drink and drive. I will get hurt or worse, disappoint my family. And then I will be back in the same spot โ a spot I donโt want to ever be in again.โย
When you are at the store and you find yourself having thoughts of putting alcohol in your cart, play your tape over and over and over in your head until you reach a safe mental space.ย
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Donโt enter without a listย
It seems like common sense to go into the grocery store with a plan, but when youโre having a busy day/week/year it can be difficult to do. Scribbling down a list before entering the store might seem like a waste of time, but it can help you stay on track. And it will limit the time youโre exposed to your triggers.
Making lists when I shop for Sanford has helped me learn to love grocery shopping. I feel so accomplished when I have finally checked everything off my list. I even crumple up the paper when I am done and toss it in the trash – feeling like Michael Jordan (though most times I miss and pick it up in hopes that no one saw me).ย
At some point, we all have to visit the grocery store. Shopping, cooking, and eating are parts of life. But, they donโt have to be scary! Great ways to avoid cravings and triggers include preparing yourself mentally, bringing a list and a friend, and congratulating yourself with a treat here and there. You have made it this far!ย
