You’re Stressed? Women Feel the Holiday Hassles More than Men

Holiday stress woman wrapping presents and looking stressed.

Women are charged with the task of keeping traditions.

My mother used to do this predictable thing whenever I would indicate frailty, especially during the holidays. If I said, “I’m tired,” she said, “You’re tired. I slept three hours last night worrying about how I would seat everyone at dinner tonight.” I could not top her ever-escalating descriptions of exhaustion, aches and pains, and dwindling finances (you’ve spent a lot of money). Looking back on it now, my mother was probably experiencing undiagnosed holiday anxiety. Perhaps she was looking for someone to appreciate how much of the responsibility for festive splendor fell on her stooped shoulders.

 

Women and Holiday Stress

These days I work for Sanford Behavioral Health , and I am more empathetic to my late mother’s passive-aggressive cry for help. The holidays are supposed to be fun and festive. But women disproportionately feel stress around the holidays because (whether they work outside the home or not) women still shoulder greater family responsibilities. During the holidays, women are more likely than men to report increased stress. Nearly half of all women in the United States report higher stress levels during the holidays. Correspondingly, a third of men say the same.

 

 

What are the key factors?

  • Women are charged with the task of keeping traditions.
  • Social media gives us a skewed perspective on the lives of others.
  • Holiday tasks are added to regular daily work, whether in an office or the home.
  • Worries about spending might impact sleep patterns, worsening anxiety.
  • With the coming of a long winter, ’tis the time for seasonal affective disorder and depression.
  • Added stress and anxiety may prompt women to drink more or misuse prescription medications.

 

Alcohol is a natural choice to self-medicate depression or anxiety. Alcohol is an alarmingly effective way to lessen stress and anxiety in the short run. However, self-medication with alcohol can cause addiction, and alcohol addiction can cause depression and anxiety. It’s a vicious circle; they are related, but one worsens the other.” Sanford Behavioral Health Chief Medical Officer Gilbert Masterson, MD

 

holiday stress woman sitting on couch looking depressed

‘Tis the time for seasonal affective disorder and depression.

 

Tips for Managing Holiday Stress

First, forget perfection. The need to create a Hallmark card experience with the perpetual smell of gingerbread and a dusting of snow is not tenable. Especially in 2022, when most of us are already experiencing mental health concerns. Women have been socialized to think about others first, but it is time for self-compassion and self-care.

 

  •  Set Boundaries – It’s okay to say “no thank you” or arrive and leave early for an event.
  • Take Time to Unwind – Give yourself the gift of 15-minute mindful meditation sessions or quiet time.
  • Reach Out – Stay connected with far-flung loved ones and spend your precious time with people who bring you happiness and joy!
  • Connect Virtually – If you are alone for the holidays, utilize a virtual option to connect with family, a therapist, or a recovery group.
  • Limit Social Media Use – Spend quality time with family and friends.
  • Volunteer – Get outside of your head and do for others.
  • Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help – And not just with the dishes! If you feel anxious, depressed, or stressed, seek professional help. If you do not have a relationship with a therapist, talk to a trusted loved one or your spiritual advisor, or pick up the phone and call 844-776-9651.

 

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Marilyn Spiller is a writer, sober coach, recovery advocate, and student of the world (she also holds a BA in English). Nine years sober herself, she penned one of the first sobriety blogs, "Waking Up the Ghost" in 2013. The blog garnered an international following, allowing Marilyn to communicate with thousands of folks in all stages of recovery. Marilyn is Sanford's Director of Marketing and serves as Editor-In-Chief for the Sanford online magazine, Excursions. She also developed and hosts the podcast Anatomy of Addiction and is Vice President of the Board, JACK Mental Health Advocacy.