I returned recently from a five-day, sober tropical vacation in Puerto Rico. To put the result into the proper perspective, I missed my connecting flight on the way home. I couldn’t muster enough rancor to be snippy to the customer service representative who rerouted me.
What, Me Worry?
My originating flight was an hour delayed out of San Juan. When we arrived in Philadelphia, the flight attendant announced, “Some of the passengers have tight connections, so if this is your final destination, please stay seated and let them pass.” With that, everyone packed into rows 1 through 23 ahead of me, stood up, and duck-walked into the aisles. Everyone. They took their sweet time un-wedging bags, hoisting them from overhead bins in sloooow-mo. They walked with exquisite sluggishness while calling loved ones who were picking them up at their final destination in Philadelphia.
I had precisely twenty-five minutes to get to my next gate. An impossible deadline that would typically have me pushing women holding babies and harrumphing, tailgating, and tromping the heels of the person in front of me.
Still Feeling Chill of a Sober Tropical Vacation
Instead, I waited my turn and got out of the plane with ten minutes to hightail it from Gate A10 to F38 – the opposite end of the airport. I was not wearing comfortable shoes. Still feeling chill and “movimiento lento,” I walked forever and then, at a metaphoric fork in the terminal, chose the bus instead of the walkway, thinking it would be faster.
Let’s say there was no sense of urgency on the bus. When I got to Terminal F by a circuitous route, my “lento” had turned “Rapido.” I hijacked a cart (I recognize the dangerous terminology, but desperate times call for desperate measures) and told the driver to “STEP ON IT!” We arrived at the gate just as the plane pulled two inches from the covered walkway and stopped. The last plane to Grand Rapids had officially taken off, even though I could still make fruitless pleading gestures to the pilot through the window.
Airports are Triggers for Alcoholics.
But here’s the deal – during the entire trial – a couple of hours of running, negotiating, and hijacking until I was in a hotel room with a meal voucher – I never considered drinking. And airports are big relapse triggers for me. I didn’t even get upset. I credit the residual brain and body healing effects of a tropical vacation. And I also ascribe the bonus good behavior to almost four years of sobriety.
Here’s Why a Sober Tropical Vacation is the Universal Cure-All
Lie in the sun with a soft breeze blowing and the sound of the waves hitting the shore. I defy anyone to stress about work. Troubles and responsibilities take a well-needed hiatus. The “ping” of the cellphone does not have the same Pavlovian response. Tropical relaxation allows a person to put things into the proper perspective and be nicer – something that has a long-term effect on the psyche when you go home (see pushing babies above).
No Booze Cruise
I admit that I had some desperate times on vacation while drinking. I even engaged in those vicious, coconut-lobbing arguments that only occur when fueled by alcohol. But, there is great joy in experiencing the sounds and sensations of a poolside lounge chair without the hangover and the regret.
The Color Blue
There need to be more words for the color blue in the tropics. What is it about blue that cures what ails? The color blue is calming and evokes strong emotions. The color blue makes a person feel tranquil, safe, and secure.
When you don’t have a hangover or aren’t buzzed before noon, there is much more time for climbing mountains, windsurfing, and snorkeling. And if you don’t drink, you are probably in better shape for it. Early morning is a gift for the sober set, which means longer days to enjoy the surrounding beauty!
Whole Foods and Fresh Fruit
I always eat better in hot climates. And when you can pick your breakfast off a tree or buy your produce from farmers in the open-air market, it tastes better. That’s the recipe!
Can you tell if the above photo was taken from a lounge chair?
For those of us who are snowbirds, a long winter can rob the body of Vitamin D. Sunshine and fresh air help to combat depression. And the suntan lotion you slather all over that white body helps moisturize dry skin…
Great Mood – Lasting Results…
A good vacation reaps overall benefits, including lowered blood pressure and reduced stress hormones. Returning to “real life” and working well-rested will help you take things (even the negative) in stride. The benefits of a vacation are long-lasting and will improve everything from work to social life to the inconvenience of a missed flight home.
Swaying palm trees are gorgeous. But realizing a life free of the insistence and persistence of addiction is beautiful too. You can’t be on vacation all the time, but you can always be present. And when you vacation sober, the memories are sharper, the gratefulness more acute…